|Dr Karen Massey Registered Psychologist|
Communication is one of the most common barriers in achieving a loving, mutually supportive relationship. Lillian Hellman states that "People change and forget to tell each other." As you will discover in couples therapy, communication involves a lot more than just telling each other about what you are thinking. Dr. Karen is trained in three major approaches for couple's counselling, specifically Drs. John and Judy Gottman, Harville Hendrix, and Alison Armstrong (PAX).
Imago Couples Counselling
As Harville Hendrix suggests "Stop Talking, Start Connecting." Hendrix' Imago Relationships approach is a "New Way to Love." Like Hendrix, I urge couples to examine their negative patterns and find ways to eliminate negativity and then powerfully transform into a loving relationship. We are all searching for Connection-connecting within ourselves, with our loved ones, and with the world. Connecting is by developing a positive, loving intimate relationship.
Gottman Couples Therapy: A New Research-Based Approach
Gottman's 40 years of research indicates that in 69% of couple's conflicts are perpetual-the couple cannot find a resolution. You have a choice of learning how to dialogue with each other or live in perpetual conflictual gridlock. You can learn how to find happiness and joy such as by softening your approach to conflict. This softening includes improving your friendship as a couple and your secure attachment to trusting and loving each other. The major cause of divorce--80% of the time, is partners becoming emotionally distant and drifting apart due to a failure of friendship and intimacy.
Alison Armstrong "PAX"Approach
The "Passion Adoration Xcstasy" approach is fast gaining popularity in North America because of it's practical, experiential, well articulated ideas on how to understand and celebrate men, and how to satisfy and understand women. PAX offers many courses that Dr. Karen has taken. Their titles represent the essence of each weekend long training experience, namely, Celebrating Men and Marriage; Celebrating Women: Regarding Ecstasy & Power-The Queen Workshop;
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